Unlocking the New You: A Mother's Journey

Motherhood is beautiful, but let’s be honest—it can also be exhausting, overwhelming, and even isolating at times. You spend so much time taking care of others that your own needs fall to the bottom of the list.

Feeling better doesn’t mean reinventing yourself or striving for perfection. It’s about making small, intentional choices that help you feel more like you again—physically, mentally, and emotionally.

You don’t have to do it all at once. Just start with one step.

Motherhood doesn’t mean losing yourself; it’s an opportunity to evolve. Let’s break it down with real-life, actionable steps that will help you feel better, inside and out, without the pressure of perfection.

1. Shift Your Mindset: Reframe the Way You See Yourself

How you speak to yourself matters more than you realize. The way you think about yourself and your life impacts everything—your mood, your confidence, and your ability to handle challenges.

• Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself. You don’t need to have it all figured out. Some days, just getting through the day is enough. Celebrate small wins, even if it’s just drinking your coffee while it’s still warm.

• Set Small, Achievable Goals: Instead of overwhelming yourself with massive changes, focus on one step at a time. Want to work out more? Start with a 10-minute stretch. Every small win adds up.

• Affirmations and Positive Thinking: Replace self-doubt with empowering affirmations like, “I am enough” or “I am doing the best I can.” Over time, these words become beliefs.

• Gratitude Practice: Write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for each day. Shifting focus to what’s going well can help reframe your perspective and boost positivity.

  
  

  

  
  

2. Self-Awareness & Accountability

Growth starts with acknowledging where you need to improve.

• Recognize Your Toxic Traits – Do you shut down in conflict? Over-apologize? Hold onto resentment? Be honest with yourself.

• Take Responsibility – Growth comes from accountability, not blame. If something needs to change, commit to working on it.

• Therapy & Self-Reflection – Sometimes, the best thing you can do is seek professional guidance to help unlearn unhealthy habits.

  
  

3. Nourish Your Body

Your physical health plays a crucial role in how you feel mentally and emotionally. Taking care of your body doesn’t have to mean green smoothies and intense workouts—small, sustainable choices make all the difference.

• Stay Active: Movement boosts endorphins, the "feel-good" hormones. Whether it’s a walk, yoga, or a dance session in your living room, find something you enjoy.

• Eat Nutrient-Rich Foods: Fuel your body with whole foods like fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and healthy fats. And yes, you can enjoy the cookie—balance is key.

• Stay Hydrated: Drinking enough water can improve energy levels, mental clarity, and overall health.

• Prioritize Sleep: Sleep is essential for recovery and emotional regulation. Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep. Create a bedtime routine to signal your body that it’s time to rest.

4. Care for Your Emotional Health

Emotional health is just as important as physical health, yet it’s the first thing we ignore when life gets busy.

• Connect with Loved Ones: Spend time with people who make you feel supported and loved. A good laugh or heartfelt conversation can work wonders.

• Journal Your Feelings: Writing is a powerful tool for processing emotions and clearing your mind.

• Set Boundaries: Protect your energy by saying “no” to things that don’t serve you. It’s okay to prioritize yourself.

• Seek Therapy or Support Groups: Talking to a professional or joining a group of like-minded individuals can provide invaluable support and guidance.

  
  

5. Prioritize Your Physical Health - Schedule the Dr Appointments!

It’s easy to push off doctor’s visits, but taking care of your body from the inside out is essential for feeling good.

• Get Your Annual Checkups – Schedule your physical, dental, and eye exams—even if you feel fine. Prevention is key.

• Check Your Vitamin Levels – Feeling tired, foggy, or low? It could be low vitamin D, iron, or thyroid imbalances. A simple blood test can give you insight.

• Support Your Gut Health – Your gut affects everything—your mood, immunity, digestion, and even mental health. Check with a GI Dr, and add probiotics, fiber, and whole foods to keep it balanced.

6. Build a Routine That Grounds You

Having a consistent routine can create stability and a sense of control in your life. A solid night time routine change my life for the better

• Start Your Day Intentionally: A simple morning ritual like stretching, sipping coffee mindfully, or journaling can set a positive tone for the day.

• Carve Out "Me Time": Even just 10-15 minutes a day for yourself—whether it’s reading, meditating, or a hobby—can help you recharge.

• Simplify Your Life: Focus on what truly matters and let go of unnecessary stressors. Declutter your home, schedule, or mind to create space for peace.

  
  

  

  
  

7. Practice Mindfulness and Stress Relief

Stress is unavoidable, but how you manage it can make all the difference.

• Deep Breathing Exercises: When overwhelmed, pause and take a few deep breaths. Inhale for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, and exhale for 6 counts to calm your nervous system.

• Meditation or Mindfulness: Apps like Headspace or Calm offer guided practices to help you center yourself.

• Get Outside: Nature is incredibly healing. A walk in the fresh air can reduce stress and improve your mood.

• Find a Creative Outlet: Express yourself through art, cooking, writing, or any activity that brings you joy.

  
  

8. Take Steps Toward Personal Growth

Growth brings fulfillment and a sense of purpose. Focusing on yourself and your growth is way more valuable then focusing on other people.

• Learn Something New: Whether it’s a hobby, a skill, or a topic you’ve always been curious about, learning keeps life exciting.

• Celebrate Your Wins: Big or small, acknowledge and celebrate your achievements.

• Focus on Your Strengths: Remind yourself of what you’re good at and lean into those talents.

9. Create Joyful Moments

Sometimes, it’s the little things that make the biggest difference, Romanticize your life whenever you can!

• Laugh Often: Watch a funny movie, read something lighthearted, or reminisce with a friend. Laughter is medicine for the soul.

• Indulge in What Makes You Happy: Whether it’s a favorite snack, a bubble bath, or curling up with a good book, find small ways to treat yourself.

When in Doubt, Seek Support to Feel Better

If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, it’s okay to ask for help. Whether it’s a trusted friend, a therapist, or a support group, leaning on others can make a huge difference in your journey. Therapy helped me find solutions and a way out of "my rut" I would highly recommend!

Final Thoughts

Taking care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally is a journey, not a destination. It’s about making intentional choices that help you feel your best.

Remember to celebrate your small steps, embrace imperfection, and give yourself grace along the way.

You are capable, resilient, and deserving of a life that feels good—inside and out. Let this be your reminder that it’s okay to prioritize yourself and take the time you need to thrive.

What are your favorite ways to feel better? Share your tips, experiences, or questions in the comments below. Let’s grow together!